The ideal mother of the XXI century: 7 strokes to the portrait
Do our children need ideal mothers?In our opinion, from the generally accepted ideality it blows cold, as if from a marble statue in a museum. And such a mother is very tired, because in the modern world it’s so difficult to keep a high, but an ideal level that you can just get sick from it.
We think thatMom should be different: happy and fun, emotional and lively, caring and understanding, warm and patient.
Of course, she will scold and educate, because our children will have to live in a world that is not at all ideal. And still mother can be mistaken, after all she is a living person. The main thing to make the right conclusions out of mistakes and best of all with the child.
Mom isa whole world for children. It is her personal example, and not smart books, magazines and articles, that is the best educational aspect. As they say, do not raise the child, educate yourself, and the child will do the same as you.
Therefore, we decided to make a portrait of my mother, which will be ideal,according toUAUA.info, and invite you to a discussion.
So, our ideal mom:
Knows how to be happy
And he understands that the point at which a person will sincerely say “I am happy” is different for everyone. Our ideal mother does not follow stereotypes: if she is happy at home with children, she is not in a hurry to work. If he literally “kisnet” without a daily whirlwind of solving business problems, he returns to his colleagues 10 days after delivery.
In both cases she is guided.only an inner feeling of happinessrather than the generally accepted norms of normality. She just can not be different, perhaps that is why she is perfect.
Do not limit your aspirations
Our perfect momalien "theory of sacrifice". She knows thatowes nothing to anyone, resolves to itself desires, emotions and sensations, and also does not expect gratitude from anyone.
She isfree from restrictions, imposed by society: doing business, watching himself, developing spiritually. Her family takes her mother's position and, in turn, does not make her demands to radically change her life to please someone.
Yes, our ideal mother has thoughts that “maybe I devote a lot of time to myself or work and do not give the necessary attention to children?”. But she does not turn a blind eye to the problem, but beginslook for solutionswhich will return her to the statethe harmonies.
Knows how to find balance
An ideal mother knows firsthand what management is and is able toallocate your timewithout prejudice to themselves, children, family and work.
Say more, she is well aware that in a magical waycalculate formula, according to which everything will always be right and without bias in one direction or another -is impossible.
Therefore, the ideal mother is tryingspend your free time with children as much as possibleand perceives any unforeseen situation calmly and with dignity. And do not forget to experiment and look for balance
Able to love and give love
Our ideal mother in everythingguided by love. She truly loves her children, her husband, her work, her parents, and, as it is not strange -yourself.
Yes, yes, because in our time the ancient biblical principle of "love your neighbor as yourself" is perceived as something strange in the context of a woman, and especially mom. How is it - yourself? What about children? And husband? And household duties? And marital debt, finally?
Our ideal mom has it all too. Only with one very important amendment -she loves it all. And he does not invent love for himself, cunning and covering himself with the opinion "everyone lives like this." And reallysincerely feels, appreciates and believes in those with whom he lives, in what he does.
And so with joygives love to others,realizing a truly unique energy exchange.
Inspiring children by their example.
Your lifestyle, energy, approach and assessment of the situation - all this is an ideal motherhands over to their children. Its main task is not to raise a child fed, washed and not in need of anything financially.
Dailyby exampleshe teaches her children to be conscious, responsible, understanding, empathic, and just kind people.
For the perfect mother, her best motivator is children. Like a mirror, theyreflect all of its advantages and disadvantages. And it is simply impossible to be imperfect already, for how can a weak-willed parent with the position of a victim be able to raise a free and creative child?
Knows how to make your life easier
An ideal mother understands that outside help is necessary, andlife needs to be simplifiedrather than complicate.
Therefore, it is absolutely without a twinge of conscience that it feeds its children with canned food instead of a freshly brewed soup,orders home delivery, uses the services of grandmothers, nannies, tutors, cooks and cleaning companies.
And the main thing is that he never sees problems in this, because all thisDoes not affect the quality of her relationships with children.
Able to rest effectively
In a family circle, with children, friends, girlfriends or all alone - the rest of the ideal mom can be different.
The main condition is that after such a rest, mother would feel that her inner balance was restored, and strength for further exploits - was added.
Raises children from a position of understanding
An ideal mother knows that to prohibit and force is useless. It is important to teach the child to independently make the right choice, to be able to make decisions and to set priorities properly. And this is exactly our ideal motherdoes every day. And does not believe that this upbringing. She just lives like that, because it’s easy, one has only to start ...
The family is a tremendous value, it is she who gives our ideal mother confidence and strength to move on.